Assertiveness is a skill, and you CAN learn to be assertive
What does being assertive mean to you? Does it mean exercising your rights every time, with every one? Or is it knowing when to let someone else or some other cause or outcome take precedence over your rights? Is the boss who piles work on an employee on a Friday evening being assertive? Or, is it when that employee tells the boss that the work will be done post the weekend?
It isn’t always easy to identify truly assertive behaviour. This is because there is a fine line between assertiveness and aggression.
Assertiveness is not necessarily easy, but it is a skill that can be learned. Developing your assertiveness starts with a good understanding of who you are and a belief in the value you bring – which is the basis of self-confidence. Assertiveness builds on that self-confidence.
Developing Your Assertiveness:
While some people are naturally more assertive than others, even if your disposition tends more towards being either passive or aggressive, you can develop your assertiveness by working on the following
Value yourself and your rights
Start today and begin to see how being assertive allows you to work with people to accomplish tasks, solve problems and reach solutions – both at work and at personal relationships.
Ajanta, Mahesh and other InnerSight counsellors and guest contributors are happy to share their thoughts here.